How to be responsible for your own happiness in a relationship

Part of my work as Marriage counselor, relationship – and life coach is to read as much as I can.  The following pointers is a result of my reading. I want to give credit to all the wise people whose books and articles have helped me to become the person I am, and still inspire me to grow. Here are some pointers to having the relationship you deserve:  Don’t be a fix-it person, be a … read more


Open up to possibilities

I grew up on a farm in Namibia. Endless miles of veld with so much life and beauty to be experienced by the bold. When you go for a walk in the bush, you can stick to the road. It’s safe, predictable and you’ll know exactly where you’re going. You’ll see wild animals from afar if you’re lucky, you’ll hear the birds and now and again you’ll be covered by dust as a car passes … read more


Do you know what you really need?

According to Cloé Madanes in her book,  Relationship Breakthrough, all of us have basic needs that underlie and motivate every choice we make. She says the six needs everyone seeks to fulfill are: Certainty/Comfort Everyone needs to have some sense of certainty and security. The degree to which certainty is desired, however, varies from one person to the next. What constitutes certainty also varies from individual to individual. Code words for this need are comfort, … read more


Principles of Coaching

As a life coach and relationship/marriage expert, I have certain beliefs that shape the coaching relationship. My integrity lies in the fact that I trust my clients to set the agenda because I believe that they are resourceful. Coaching is about helping them discover what their own potential is and how to grow towards fulfillment and happiness. I know that only they know the full story and therefore only they can implement the action agreed … read more